The First Date (How to Make Sure It's Not the Last)

Author: Jerry Heng

Article:
Dating is a minefield, if you do not know the principles of
dating. Your first date can end up to be the last one, if you do
not know these important principles.

If your mind is filled with images of tripping over your own
feet, not knowing what to say, you just need to stay calm and
relax. A first date is bound to be filled with anxieties.

Treat the date as simply a way to know each other better, have a
good time, and learn about yourself and each other. Remind
yourself that your date already likes something about you, or
wouldn't have agreed to go out in the first place. Also, pay
attention on what to wear and good grooming, such as a neat
hairstyle, clean nails and clean mouth.

Be creative about where to go and what to do on the first date.
Do something that would be fun and comfortable for both of you.
Typically, the first date is a movie, followed by a meal. This
works as it allows both of you to get comfortable with each
other gradually over a movie, and then a topic area to talk
about over a meal.

Of course, you can try other options, such as a visit to a
museum or a picnic. If you still do not have any first date
ideas, you can always brainstorm with your date to come up with
something, that both of you enjoy doing.

The art of conversation is also very important during the first
date. This involves the confidence to speak freely whatever that
comes to your mind, which can create the other person to be
interested, and also makes you interested in return. You can
tell an interesting story about yourself or about what you have
done, such as a new sport. You can also pose brain teasers to
your date, or ask open ended questions such as "What are your
hobbies?" or "What is your favorite food?"

At the end of the date, point out what you have enjoyed about
the person's company. You may feel uncomfortable about what to
say, but what is important, is to relax and be as casual as
possible. And no matter how the date goes, thank the person for
the date. Although first impressions do determine how you feel
about someone, you may not always be able to tell, as your date
may be nervous that day. You can always allow a few encounters,
to know the person better, so that you can gauge more accurately
how compatible both of you are.

About the author:
Jerry Heng is a Dating and Relationship Consultant who helps
singles to be successful in the dating scene, overcome dating
phobias, enhance love relationships, and find their true love.
To learn more about his free Dating and Relationship advice,
visit his blog http://www.hmengchoon.com You can also get his
free report at
http://www.datingexpertsecrets.com/free-report.pdf Further
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